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A Work In Progress offers real life inspiring stories on love, relationships, fun, lifestyle, goals and overcoming challenges, grief and timeless love, being happy and at peace.


QUICK LINKS TO STORIES see below:-                   To search the Web use search bar above. A Note for You from Graham and Bev
About Sam live a life with no regrets
David's Story the life of a wealthy and famous man
Leave your Mark our enduring worth
Living in the Present finding happiness each day with a promise of the future
 Living Life connecting with life and seeing the magic around us
NEW Love in Motion love is a verb - an action
Love is Stronger than death how love is timeless and forever
Noel's Story - an Aussie Digger life works when we work it

A Note for You ...from Graham and Bev

We offer these true stories after walking through life looking for answers and realising that others are asking some of the the same questions.  We hope in revealing part of our personal story it will inspire, give hope and courage to all to have patience and endurance in difficult times for they do pass and to embrace the good times which always definitely follow.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves together
as we travel through the one life we have to live
on this earth and beyond.

Life has an ebb and flow ...

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Love in Motion as an Action p1
Sam - Live with No Regrets p2
Keys to the Present & Future p3
About David - A Wealthy Man p4
Noel's Story - A Life's Work p5
Living Life - Catch the Magic p6
On Grief & Timeless Love p7

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Love in Motion
...love is a verb - an action




A few years ago the thought kept popping up to get a second bedside alarm clock so I could set the alarm to wake me up in the morning to go to work instead of Graham doing it.  Back then I often started work at different times and he would ask me every night (when he was nearly asleep) what time to set it.  He would set it for himself to go off around 5am and then, half asleep, the next morning, he would faithfully remember to set it for the time I had told him the night before.  Remarkable!  How he was able to remember this every morning at 5am for 20 plus years I will never know - quite brilliant.  I worked it out - 52 weeks x 5 days a week x 20 years = 5,200 times.  A world class effort and not something I could do.  So, realising this, I set him free and bought myself a cute little alarm clock.  I told the lady in the shop when I bought my new clock how I'd just realised what my husband had faithfully done for the last 20 years.  She didn’t seem to want to hear it - said something about how I'd probably done a lot for him too.  I thought to myself she had missed the point but at least she only missed it once - not 5,200 times like I had!

My second priority that day was to thank Graham for being so consistent.  He said:  I don’t mind - I do it because I love you.  Years later I have read and also observed that blokes "act out" their love.  Love is an action rather than talking which is kinda neat when you think about it.  They "do" their love for us not yap about it.  They do things consistently and unasked for and, while I don't expect him to take out the garbage, he does it not because he wants to (tell me who does?) but because it's a statement of caring and I make sure I thank him for it.  If I see he is rushing and out of time then I put the garbage out.  When he sees I'm run off my feet he pitches in clearing out the dishwasher or maybe washing my car when it gets dirty and a few years back every morning and night he changed the water in the large bird dish so 50 plus native birds flying into our garden had fresh water.  Small things which, over time, become a pattern of what we “do" for each other (even little birds) often unrecognised in the daily makeup of our lives.

A wise friend once said to me very directly:  Bev, you need to say please and thank you to Graham a lot more.  She spoke the truth to me in kindness and I thought about it and then made it a habit not only to say it often but to mean it and be thankful.  They are not words I can overuse.

I believe us girls are the same - the many things I do for Graham - making lunches, dinner, washing and ironing his shirts ready for his work week even when he insists he will do it and I should have a rest.  I like to know he can get up early Monday and take his time thinking and planning his day without distractions and lunch is there to go so he won't go without as he works hard through a busy day.

He thanks me for doing his work account and paperwork mid-week at night after my day at work.  He comes up behind me, puts his hand on my shoulder and says thank you - its a wonderful feeling.  He recognises when I'm tired and definitely don't feel like it but I do it anyway because I love him and want to help.  Graham instinctively knows when to push out the tightness in my aching hands after a hard day's work of fast typing.  We've learned to be a team - a partnership - one for the other and, to me, it's a romantic love story in motion.

I have to admit we didn't start out like this - well, we were BM (before marriage) and then somehow lost it for a while and had to relearn to respect and help with each others needs.  Some say love should be unconditional but I think human love is very much conditional upon needs being met through love and respect with both words in daily life being verbs - actions not only talk.

Men demonstrate their emotions - they often don't say them - as this statement reveals from a husband speaking to his wife in the heat of an argument (from the book: The Men We Never Knew by Daphne Rose Kingma):-

"When I go to work everyday, when I put new tyres on your car ... I'm showing you I love you.  Why else would I do all these things?"

Now there's a point - why would anyone?  His unspoken and unrecognised code.  The response from his shocked wife was she thought he'd done those things because they had to be done and didn't realise it was a choice.

Made me think about how people who love us often do things without sounding a trumpet and requiring accolades (noisy thank you’s).  Maybe we can all look into our lives and inhale the fragrant roses of love others give to us which cannot be put into a vase of water yet are just as lovely and, more importantly, a longer lasting gift.

Little Corella "flying in" ...he changed the water in the dish for the birds flying into our garden
 
Rainbow Lorikeet "Daydreaming"


What is Life

but to Dream

and to Do



Margaret Gehrke
(Diary note after hiking into the bottom of the Grand Canyon in May 1929)

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